So, you met a nice guy and had a first date. Great! Not so great: The fact that—although you thought things were going well—you never heard from him again. There’s been a lot of debate as to why men tend to disappear (he’s not ready for a serious thing, he’s just so busy at work right now, he’s intimidated by you.) We can sugarcoat it all we want, but the fact remains that, well, he probably just wasn’t that into you. We know, it hurts to hear.
Granted, you won’t mesh with every guy you go out with, but there are those dates that you thought were amazing and never went anywhere. Could it be something you’re doing? Maybe.
Read on for 10 reasons guys disappear after the first date he didn’t call you after a first date—along with tips on how to get the guy to like you for you.
1. You didn’t put the phone down.
This is the big one, girls: Obsessively checking your phone every minute isn’t the way to get a guy to like you. There’s nothing ruder than trying to have a conversation with a person who’s constantly staring at their screens—wouldn’t you be put off if he were paying more attention to his iPhone than to you?
Checking Instagram can wait. No, it can’t? Then you’re probably not ready to have a relationship with an actual human just yet. Similarly, don’t post status updates, tweet about your date in real-time, or snap any candid pics when he’s not looking. That’s just creepy.
2. You didn’t eat.
Most guys will freely tell you that there’s nothing more cliché (read: boring) than a girl who doesn’t eat on a date. If you think not ordering dinner will make you appear skinnier, prettier, sexier, more feminine, or more mysterious, guess what? It won’t. What it will do? Probably make the dude a little uncomfortable, especially if he takes you to a restaurant. Plus, if you’re weird about eating, he might think you’re weird about other pleasurable things