If you’ve been catching up on social media in the past week, you’ll likely have heard about Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith’s situationship.
For a quick recap, it all began when singer, August Alsina revealed he had a relationship with Jada Pinkett in an interview with Angela Yee.
With social media having a full day with this, Jada tweeted that she would be coming on the Red Table Talk (a show which she hosts) to give her side of the story.
To a lot of viewers’ surprise, her husband Will Smith conducted this interview which was released yesterday confirming that Jada Pinkett had a relationship with August Alsina or rather, an entanglement as she insisted it to have been.
Personally, I think this must have been quite a difficult discussion to have with your
partner…most especially in the eyes of the public. So here are a few things we have learnt from Will Smith and Jada Pinkett’s about marriage.
1. Marry Your Best Friend
During the course of their conversation on The Red Table, Will Smith recalled telling Jada that he could love her through anything. That is quite a strong proclamation to make, especially during the early stages of their relationship. They have been married for 25 years and took a break four years ago, which is the period Jada and August had an “entanglement”.
We also noticed that they had such an open and honest conversation about the entire process, how it started, what had transpired and how it ended…marrying your best friend is probably the best way to have a ride or die.
2. Love Is Twisted
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett’s marriage is evidence that love isn’t one thing or even two things.
A lot of us have preconceived notions from watching movies, celebrity marriages and
relationships, counselling and every other way we get ideas of how a relationship should work.
It’s totally okay to have a marriage different from the movies. It is okay to love differently and it is okay to love in the special twisted way you and your partner have discovered works best for you, as long as you are happy of course.
3. No Secrets
Will Smith and Jada at a point during their discussion had a little banter that said ‘bad marriage for life’, which is a slogan from one of the movies Will Smith plays in as a cop called Bad Boys.
The question in most of our minds for sure is, is this even possible? How can you be in a
marriage and not have secrets? And you’re probably right to think this way but one of our major takeaways from this conversation was -no secrets.
So, maybe no secrets could mean honesty, it could mean introspection and whatever but ultimately marriages could do well with little or no secrets. How can having no secrets in a marriage work? Through communication.
Communication could fix a lot of problems we have in relationships, and even if it doesn’t, it helps put our minds at ease.
4. It Is Okay To Have Space
Remember, you are your own person even in a relationship or marriage and having sanity or being in your best mental state is not only beneficial to you but your partner as well.
Will Smith mentioned asking for space from their marriage 4 years ago because he wasn’t sure if he could ever talk to her again. It is okay, to step back for a day or two or even a week to evaluate yourself and the relationship. Asking for space is okay, as long as there is an understanding or respect, how it would work and for how long.
5. Marriage Is About Choices
There isn’t a manual telling you how it should work or not work, it is all about you and your partner. However you decide to go about it is up to you, do not let society or any other thing dictate how you should run your home…it is all up to you.
What more have you learnt about marriage in general and also watching the red table
conversation between Will Smith and Jada Pinkett? Let us know.
And have a lovely weekend!