Dr. Tewa Onasanya is taking her Rule Your Mind Tour to Kigali, Rwanda, on 26 August 2026 for a mindset styling experience focused on personal growth, leadership, wellness, clarity and intentional living. Built around her philosophy of “mindset styling”, the experience encourages participants to examine the thoughts, beliefs and internal narratives that influence how they live, lead and make decisions.
Ahead of the Kigali tour, Dr. Tewa Onasanya shares the inspiration behind the experience, why Kigali was chosen as a destination, what it means to truly rule your mind, and why success should feel as good as it looks.
What inspired you to take the Rule Your Mind experience beyond the pages of your book and into a live tour?
When I wrote Rule Your Mind, I wasn’t simply writing a book; I was sharing a philosophy that had transformed the way I understood my own life, leadership and success.
Over the years, I realised that people don’t just need information. They need an experience. They need to pause, reflect, reset and actually practise what they are learning.
That is what inspired the Rule Your Mind Tour.
As a Mindset Stylist, I help people understand that just as we intentionally choose what we wear, we can also become intentional about the thoughts, beliefs, words and energy we wear every day.
I am taking this movement beyond the pages of the book because I want people across Africa and globally to experience what happens when you begin to rule your mind instead of allowing your mind to rule you.
My bigger vision is to help people create success that doesn’t just look good from the outside, but feels as good as it looks on the inside.
You describe yourself as a Mindset Stylist. For someone encountering that term for the first time, what exactly does mindset styling mean?
Mindset styling is about intentionally choosing and styling the thoughts, beliefs, words and internal narratives that shape the way you experience your life.
We spend so much time styling our appearance. We choose our clothes, our hair, our accessories and our presentation because we understand that how we show up matters.
But I believe how you think determines how you show up even more powerfully than what you wear.
As a Mindset Stylist, I help people identify the thoughts and beliefs that no longer serve them and intentionally replace them with mindsets that support the life they desire.
It is not about pretending everything is perfect or denying difficult emotions. It is about becoming conscious of your internal world and learning how to lead yourself from there.
For me, mindset styling is ultimately about alignment, getting your mind, your belief, your words, your actions and your desired reality working together.
Why was Kigali chosen as a destination for the Rule Your Mind Tour, and what makes the city particularly relevant to the message you are taking there?
Kigali felt like a natural destination for this movement.
There is something incredibly intentional about Kigali, the city, its people and the way Rwanda has positioned itself as a nation focused on growth, development, leadership and transformation.
I am particularly interested in spaces where personal transformation and collective transformation meet.
My work is rooted in Africa, but my vision is global. I want to have conversations about mindset, leadership, wellness and success with people across different African cities and around the world.
Kigali represents an important part of that journey.
The Rule Your Mind Tour is not simply about bringing a British-Nigerian programme to Rwanda. It is about creating a shared African conversation around mindset, wellbeing, leadership and intentional living.
The Kigali experience brings together mindset, leadership, wellness and meaningful connections. Why was it important for you to bring these elements together?
Simple, I don’t believe success should be one-dimensional.
We have spent years celebrating achievement, productivity and the ability to “do more”, sometimes without asking what that success is costing us.
What is the point of building an impressive career or business if you are constantly stressed, disconnected from yourself, exhausted or unable to enjoy the life you worked so hard to create?
For me, mindset, leadership and wellness are interconnected.
You have to be able to lead yourself before you can effectively lead others. And you cannot sustainably lead yourself if you are constantly operating from overwhelm.
Then there is connection. We are not designed to grow in isolation. The people we meet, the conversations we have and the communities we create can profoundly influence our growth.
So the Kigali experience is designed to create space for mindset transformation, leadership development, wellness, reflection and meaningful human connection.
The programme highlights six outcomes: reducing stress, regaining clarity, leading yourself, living intentionally, building meaningful connections and accessing practical resources. Which of these do you think people struggle with most today, and why?
I think clarity is one of the biggest challenges.
We are living in a world where we are constantly receiving information, opinions, expectations and distractions. Everyone seems to have something to say about what we should be doing, where we should be, what success should look like and how quickly we should achieve it.
The result is that many people are busy, but not necessarily clear.
And when you don’t have clarity, it becomes difficult to make intentional decisions.
That is why I often encourage people to pause and ask themselves: What do I actually want? What do I believe? What matters to me now?
Clarity gives you the ability to make choices from intention rather than pressure.
And when you have clarity, you can begin to reduce stress, lead yourself more effectively and build a life that is genuinely aligned with who you are.
The tour promises practical tools for managing stress. What is one mindset practice you believe people can begin using immediately?
I would start with something very simple: pause before you participate in the thought. Not every thought deserves your agreement.
We often experience a thought and immediately treat it as truth. Someone says something, something doesn’t go according to plan, and suddenly our minds create an entire story around it.
I teach people to become more conscious of what they are thinking and ask:
“Is this thought serving me, or is it stressing me?”
Then intentionally choose another thought.
One of the principles behind my Mindset Styling work is that you can style your thoughts.
You can choose a more empowering interpretation. You can choose a better question. You can choose words that move you towards possibility rather than fear.
That small pause can completely change the way you respond to a situation.
You also place emphasis on meaningful connections. How important are the people around us to the way we think, grow and lead?
Extremely important.
We underestimate the power of our environment.
The conversations you repeatedly have, the people you spend time with, the ideas you consume and the communities you belong to can influence what you believe is possible for your life.
Sometimes you don’t need another motivational speech. You need to be in a room where someone sees something in you that you have not yet seen in yourself.
That is why I deliberately create spaces for meaningful connections.
The Rule Your Mind Tour is not just an event where people sit and listen to me speak. I want people to meet people, share ideas, build relationships and leave with connections that can continue long after the event.
Because sometimes the right connection can change the trajectory of your life.
What can someone expect when they walk into the Rule Your Mind Tour in Kigali? Take us through the experience.
I want people to expect an experience, not just an event. You will have the opportunity to pause from the noise of everyday life and come back to yourself.
There will be conversations around mindset, leadership, wellness, stress management and intentional living, but there will also be opportunities for reflection, connection and practical application.
My goal is for people to leave with more than inspiration. I want them to leave with tools they can actually use.
You should be able to walk out of that room knowing what you need to change, what you need to stop carrying, what you need to start believing and what your next intentional step looks like.
And, of course, I want there to be joy, energy, beautiful connections and that feeling of, “I needed this.”
The flyer says, “Come as you are. Leave with a calmer mind, greater clarity, and the confidence to create a life that feels as good as it looks.” What would you personally want that transformation to mean for each person in the room?
I want people to realise that they don’t have to choose between success and wellbeing.
You can be ambitious and still have peace. You can build a successful business and still enjoy your life. You can lead others and still take care of yourself. You can want more and still be grateful for where you are.
For me, success is not simply about what you have accumulated or what the world can see. It is about how your life feels when nobody is watching.
So if someone leaves Kigali feeling calmer, clearer, more intentional and more confident about the next chapter of their life, then I know the experience has done what I intended it to do.
Ultimately, I want people to create success that feels as good as it looks. That is the movement I am taking global.
Finally, if you could give one piece of advice to the person who is constantly battling their own thoughts, what would you tell them?
I would tell them: you are not every thought you think.
Your mind may produce fear, doubt, anxiety, old stories and limiting beliefs. But you don’t have to make every thought your identity or your reality.
Pause.
Observe the thought.
Question it.
Then decide what you want to believe and how you want to move forward. You have more agency than you think.
And sometimes ruling your mind doesn’t mean having a perfectly quiet mind. It means learning how to lead your mind instead of being led by it.
That is what Rule Your Mind is really about. It is about reclaiming your power, becoming intentional about your inner world and creating a life that doesn’t just look successful, but feels good to live.
And that is the transformation I want to take from Kigali to Nairobi, London, Lagos, the UAE and ultimately to people everywhere who are ready to Rule Their Mind and live intentionally.
As the Rule Your Mind Tour makes its way to Kigali, the experience represents more than another stop on a growing tour. It reflects Dr. Tewa Onasanya’s wider belief that personal success should be accompanied by clarity, wellbeing and a sense of fulfilment.
Through conversations around mindset, leadership, connection and intentional living, she hopes to give people practical ways to take greater ownership of their inner lives.
From Kigali, the journey continues, carrying with it a message that remains at the heart of her work: a successful life should not only look good from the outside, it should feel good to live.
