Welcome to February, the month of love! It’s amazing how Valentine’s Day has taken over the whole month, but I guess it just shows that we all need love. It’s a great blessing to love and be loved.
This is one month where single people feel extra tensioned and those in relationships work extra hard to please their partners. In a few days, you’ll know how much you really mean to your partner and if you are really your boo’s boo.
Some people will get proposed to, and others will get heartbroken, but no matter what your relationship status is this month, you can actually enjoy (decide to have) a great Valentine’s Day.
What is it that makes Valentine’s Day so special? Is it expensive gifts? Or the red lingerie and table for two activities that lead to the birth of thousands of November babies?
Just like it is with Christmas, it’s easy to get carried away with the frenzy of the day and not really pay attention to the most important ingredient.
The main reason why Valentine’s Day is so special is that it’s a day to give and receive love. And while the main focus of the day is usually romantic love, it doesn’t have to be that way. Having a lover is a beautiful thing, but it shouldn’t be the only way to give and receive love.
So what I’m saying is that regardless of your relationship status this Valentine’s Day, find a way to give and receive love. Don’t get lost in who got engaged and who got the most expensive gift or who got the biggest surprise. All those things are superficial. Love is the major key and there are so many ways to give and get love.
Here’s how to Enjoy Valentine’s Day regardless of your relationship status:
If you’re single, make a decision to be around people who love you this Valentine’s Day. We all have at least one person in whose presence we feel like a god. It doesn’t matter if it’s your mother or your little brother or your best friend.
The most important thing is that you make a conscious effort to go where you’re appreciated and treated like the superstar that you are. Whether you get roses or not, you are phenomenal and nothing can change that.
If you’re in a relationship, whether dating or married, please look beyond the gifts and focus on the giver. You are blessed to be with a person who loves you and hopefully cares enough about you that they decided to make an effort to give you a great experience. Their gifts might not be what you were expecting and might not come close to what your friend received, but that should not be your focus. Instead, focus on the blessing of the love that you have and enjoy it. Some people would give anything to have what you’re taking for granted. Remember that.
If you’re in a difficult relationship or a situationship or it’s complicated, use Valentine’s Day to take a break from that drama and go where you are loved without question or confusion. Find a safe haven this February 14th, as you’re reading this, you’ll know who or where it is. Go there and just bask in that love regardless of who’s giving it.
With each passing day and year, I’m learning more and more that the key to having a great life is to decide that you will enjoy yourself no matter the circumstances you’re presented with.
I believe that the same principle applies to Valentine’s Day. So whatever your relationship status is this year, go where the love is and you’re guaranteed to have a fantastic day.
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About The Writer
Jola Sotubo is a writer and media entrepreneur. She is the author of “Love Letter to My Ex,” a memoir of her relationship experiences which also highlights lessons others can learn from her mistakes. Follow her on Instagram @jolasotubo
